Friday, October 27, 2006

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Here's Mum & baby on day of Frank's licensing... That means today we become 'Pastor's wife' (no I will not be playing the piano or running sunday school), and 'Pastor's kid'.

Funnily enough, I didn't get a photo of him getting licensed (but Melissa did so I'll have to steal one from her)

We're proud of Frank/Dad as he's gone through alot to become the man he is today.

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Friday, October 20, 2006

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Tuesday, October 17, 2006

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Friday, October 13, 2006
Given my last post on needing to be gracious to myself, I thought I'd include a verse from Galatians 5:1 that I need to remind myself of:
"It is for freedom that Christ has set us for free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery".

Expectations I have of myself are a burden and enslave me. That'll take a lifetime of right thinking, but I'll try my best to catch my thoughts when they are expectations that do not serve anyone (especially God's purposes).
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Thursday, October 12, 2006
Our cell group is looking at 'Grace' as we follow the DVD series "What's so amazing about grace".

Here's a few of my self-reflections on grace -
I find it easier to give grace to others than be gracious to myself. Little and big things I'd never consider telling other people off for I tell myself off for.

Grace from God is easier to receive than grace from myself or others - I know God doesn't expect anything back - it's just who He is... 'grace' from others sometimes is hard to accept as there are sometimes instances where people do it for their own 'righteous' gain (sometimes it's hard to tell if that's the case).

One of the questions posed by Yancey is "How does our church currently reach out in grace - to our members, to our community, to our world?" I think Cession does a good 'job' at being gracious (though I think it's more about who you are than setting out to do something because you have to) especially to people who are on a faith journey with lots of questions and a strong dislike of church; also to people in need within the community. The bigger thing that strikes me within this question is the question of how I might be reaching out in grace, especially to the world...
I know that I give money to charity/missions, and try to help people where I can...but is that 'love' rather than 'grace'? How much do those concepts cross-over? In my mind I sense I give grace when someone has made poor decisions that impact on others in a negative way.
I feel like I can give grace, but I don't have the opportunity to give grace that frequently...and that thought scares me as it makes me wonder how much I'm actually engaging with people on a deep level, and how much I'm willing to meet people outside of my friend group now. And there I go again - expecting big things of myself to be something. Ahhh, I need grace.

This DVD series could be interesting! I'll keep you posted on my musings.
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I've been trying for a week to get photos of Selah at 4wks on the blog but it's not happening for some reason. Sorry to family/friends who are looking for updates! There will be some on as soon as poss.

She is getting cuter though - she's filling out, growing taller, and her head has got bigger...she's also opening her eyes more and enjoying 'play' time with Big Bird and a brainy baby book :)
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Thursday, October 05, 2006
When I was young, I didn’t have bought lunches for school except on my birthday – that means I had lunches prepared by my Mum and a huge excited expectation around my birthday, (unfortunately I didn’t thank Mum every day for making my lunch).
When I was young, I didn’t have label clothes, and often didn’t have new clothes of my own – that means I had to develop personality to have friends rather than be in the right clique.
When I was young, we didn’t have takeaways or meals out (we had takeaways when Dad got a payrise (yearly) and on very very special occasions. I remember going out to dinner as a family once (on my sister’s 21st birthday)). That means I had healthy dinners prepared by my Mum (or me) and learned to eat in a balanced way, and fish&chips were a huge treat.
When I was young, we didn't have canned fruit or packet veges. We helped make a garden and then cook the produce for bottling/freezing. That meant we had skills in food preparation and knew the value of such.

I remember yoghurt in individual pottles being a treat.
Easter eggs (when I was old enough to buy them myself) were a treat as we weren’t given these.
Christmas/birthdays weren’t overdone in terms of gifts so I didn’t get an unhealthy addiction to need/want more.
We didn’t have real orange juice, but raro.
We had porridge or weetbix and never cocopops.
Holidays were always to visit family. Mum had never been overseas when she died.
I made dolls from pegs and paper/wool. There were no Barbies in my house (Thank the Lord), and few toys that were hand me downs from my sisters.
My first movie outing was when I was old enough to drive myself there and pay for it myself.
As a young girl I had so much when I thought that I didn’t. I had my Mum after school with afternoon tea and help with homework or a debrief of my day (sometimes after being teased about my clothes or lunch!). I had parents who were involved in my education, sport, and cared for people in the community (sometimes I felt neglected but I hope I picked up their desire to help people whatever the cost).

My Mum and Dad were born just after the War and so carried the Gen X mentality of saving, but my parents were also very generous with their time, love and money because of their giving hearts led by the example of Jesus.

Society has changed. There are many people who want to give their children ‘what they never had’ but I hope that my daughter learns what she has when she doesn’t have. I could easily be sucked in to buying ‘cute’ things for Selah, to get her things that she likes/wants as that’s a Mum’s heart. I don’t want her to have an unrealistic idea of what treats are, but I will find it a challenge to not have takeaways and treats too often as we often think “Mmm, I feel like…” and go and buy it. I’m thinking this year for Christmas, she won’t have a clue about what she is given so I might buy her a ‘gift for life’ through Tear Fund.

As a young woman, I have so much, and I know that I do. The challenge is not to look too far ahead and think – I don’t have a house, I don’t have much in savings, I don’t have the option not to work in a few months time, yet I’m so blessed to live in NZ, to not have to work carrying water for my family now, to have a roof over my head, family & friends who love me, to have the ability to save anything.

Selah – pause and reflect.
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Tuesday, October 03, 2006
It's amazing to me how very little things I now appreciate, and how many things I 'forget' to appreciate.
I didn't know for example, that you can get your car registration online rather than go in to NZPost (how many years have I made special trips to the Postshop for that and paid by eft-pos!).
I didn't think about the benefit of a carport straight outside your door until now that we don't have one I'm going to have to find some poncho jackets to make sure I can go out without saturating my wee girl.

On a larger scale, I watched some of 60minutes last night and there were a couple of people who had broken their necks and were now paralysed...I don't think that I appreciate my legs, movement, arms, typing, writing, etc. anywhere near as much as I could. There must be millions of things I pass by everyday and don't appreciate. I wonder what it is about my nature that I don't appreciate things fully unless I don't have them or need something I don't have.
Maybe I should read Pollyanna again.
Or Psalms.
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